How to Pick Out Your First Adult Toy

December 03 2021


Picking out your first adult toy can be an exciting, pleasurable, and somewhat emotionally charged experience. After all, you’ve never done this before, and there’s a whole new world of intimacy you have yet to explore!


However, it can also be difficult when you aren’t sure what to look for or where to get it. Not to mention, you don’t have the experience with toys to know exactly what you want or which features you’ll like.


Here are some tips to pick out your very first toy: from ensuring it’s safe to things to keep in mind during your selection.

Let’s get started:


Tip #1:  Focus on an Area that Gives You Considerable Pleasure

Because of all the adult toys on the market and the various applications they have, it can be difficult to even choose a category to focus on.


Our recommendation is all in the heading above: focus on an area that gives you considerable pleasure—no matter what that might mean. Once you’ve picked an area you have a starting point to search for a product that stimulates the area of your choosing.


For example, if you’re someone who likes a lot of external stimulation, you might find yourself wanting a vibrator or massager. However, if you enjoy internal stimulation, you may find a dildo or internal prostate massager (for those who have prostates) to be more your speed.


No matter what area of intimate pleasure you fancy or the kind of sensation you enjoy the most, there’s a toy designed to cater to it.


Tip #2: Features are Key

Once you have chosen the area you want to focus on, it’s time to start looking at the various features available. Consider what type of sensations you think you would enjoy and which toys might be able to provide that.


If you’re unsure what sensations you would like or can’t think of any off the top of your head, the list below is a great place to start:


Common Adult Toy Features

  • Vibrating
  • Rotating
  • Thrusting
  • Squirting
  • Heating
  • Cooling
  • Smooth (such as glass)
  • Rough/bumpy (such as with certain dildos or textured silicone toys)
  • Air blowing and sucking
  • Licking
  • Filling (such as with large objects)


This list is not exhaustive, but it is an excellent place to start if you are a first timer or looking for new sensations.


Tip #3: Consider Material

Something that even experienced toy buyers forget to consider is the material their toy is constructed from. Different materials can provide completely different sensations and experiences, so taking this factor into account is absolutely paramount.


For example, silicone is often used for toys that vibrate or fit into smaller spaces, as it gives the toy some extra give for a more comfortable experience. Glass, on the other hand, is meant to be rigid and naturally temperature changing, so that it feels cool when pressed to the skin and then gradually warms up over time as it absorbs heat.


Metal, wood, and plastic are also common materials you may see when shopping for an adult toy, and each one of these has its own set of unique attributes as well. Metal is great for temperature playing, wood can lend itself to some incredibly unusual shapes and designs, and plastic is generally flexible and great for first-time users.


Consider which of these sets of qualities matters the most to you and look for toys crafted from that material.


You don’t have to settle for just one, though! Pick out a few and see what you can find!


Tip #4: Give Special Thought to Insertable Toys

When looking for insertable toys, it’s quite common to come across a few that you’re unsure about because of their size. Some may seem a little too big, and some a little too small. However, if you’re stuck between two specific sizes of product, we highly recommend you heed our advice on this one:


That is, when picking between a smaller size or a larger size, you should almost always opt for the smaller.


We say this because sex toys can not be returned (for obvious reasons) so you don’t want to get stuck with a toy you can’t use. With a smaller toy, worst-case scenario, you simply won’t feel it quite as much as you’d like to.


With larger products, however, you can risk discomfort and even injury if you try to use something a little too big.


However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ever try big products. We simply recommend that, when you do, you choose a flexible material and use enough lube to protect your body. Sex is fun, but it’s all about safety.


Tip #5: Make Sure It’s Body Safe

Our final (and most important tip), we recommend you always do research into the company you’re buying from to ensure their products are body-safe.


Don’t get us wrong—we aren’t saying you have to go for the most expensive products on the market to protect yourself. Rather, we simply want you to examine the materials of the toy you’re considering and make sure that it’s safe for external or internal use (depending on the toy).


Final Thoughts

While it is important to ensure the toys you’re using are safe, you shouldn’t let this guide scare you away from using them. 9 times out of 10, the adult toy you pick out will be perfectly acceptable to use in the bedroom. We just want you to find the perfect match.


At Edonista all of our toys are triple-checked to ensure they are safe and best quality possible. Don’t take our word for it, though—check out our shop and do your own research (let us know how it went on the reviews section ;) ).


Stay safe, and have fun!