For many people, the idea of discussing their erotic fantasies with their partner can feel daunting. However, talking about these fantasies can be an important step in deepening the connection and intimacy between two partners. If you are wondering how to bring up this topic, we’ve put together a few tips to help you talk about your erotic fantasies with your partner.
Honesty and Openness
The first tip is to be open and honest with your partner. This means being willing to express yourself openly and without fear or judgment. By doing so, you are creating a safe space for both of you to share your thoughts and feelings without feeling pressured or uncomfortable. It is also important to keep in mind that while it may feel intimidating at first, talking about your desires can open up a whole new level of connection between you and your partner.
Be Clear About What You Want
When discussing your erotic fantasies with your partner, it is important to be clear about what specifically you want out of the experience. This means being pretty descriptive of what kind of activities you would like to explore together and to what extent. Doing so will make sure both parties are on the same page when it comes to expectations and boundaries moving forward.
Communicate Your Feelings
It is also important that you communicate any apprehensions or reservations you may have about what you would be exploring together as well as any enthusiasm that may come hand-in-hand with the fantasy being discussed. Doing so will ensure that both parties are aware of what could potentially come up during the exploration process and that everyone feels respected and supported throughout the entire process.
Last but not least, you guessed it.. Listen!
Just like this talk can be intimidating for you, it can also feel this way for your partner. Be receptive of their feedback on the ideas you are sharing and understand that some might come a bit out of left field so they could need a minute to process. This doesn’t automatically mean they’re not onboard, keep the lines open for a two way communication on what they might/might not be comfortable with so you can both get to an agreement on how/what to do.
Talking about erotic fantasies can be an incredibly intimate experience for couples who are looking to deepen their connection and explore their sexuality together. By communicating clearly and honestly, couples can create a safe space where they can fully express themselves without fear or judgment. With these tips in mind, we hope you feel empowered to explore with your partner freely and openly! Have fun!