Tips for anal sex

August 24 2022

Everyone could feel pleasure from anal sex, simply due to the fact that we all have an *, but this does not mean that everyone actually enjoys it. There are people who are pros at it, and there are others who still have some doubts or questions as to whether anal is for them, I hope this post can help clear those doubts!


The anus has a huge number of nerve endings and is very connected to the prostate and clitoris, so when sexually stimulated it can be very pleasant.


Emphasizing (as always) that it is very important to use a condom when having anal sex as STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) can also be transmitted this way!


The second very important thing is to use a water-based lubricant since the anus is very sensitive and does not lubricate as easy as other parts of the body. There are two ring shaped muscles that form part of the anus, the external sphincter and the internal sphincter. These can achieve relaxation with continued stimulation using plenty of lubricant and a finger or a small anal plug, until the person feels comfortable enough to receive a larger toy (always with a flare base!) or a penis.  The lube should be applied both on the anus and on the penis or toy.


Some great partners in crime for * sex:


During prep for anal sex, it is important to take your time, anal dilation is fundamental and can even take a couple minutes for your partner to be ready. You must take the time to achieve proper dilation as an abrupt penetration can cause damage to the anus tissue and even bleeding.


If it becomes painful, stop. Pain should not be part of this equation, the intimate encounter should be based on the pleasure of both parties. Best way to avoid pain is through the tips mentioned above and trying to find positions in you/your partner are more comfortable and relaxed. As usual, communication is key to ensure you both are having a good time.


It is not recommended to perform enemas to clean the intestinal contents located at the level of the rectum and colon. This type of practice generates irritation and inflammation in the anal area, increasing the risk of lesions that predispose to contracting STIs; they can also affect the bacteria that live in your intestine. The rectum can be refilled with content at any time, it will never be clean enough, so it could not be useful on some occasions either. The ideal is to keep the perianal region always clean and dry, avoiding excess moisture, ingesting an adequate amount of dietary fiber to avoid episodes of diarrhea or constipation. And if there is an "accident", simply change the condom, clean up if necessary, and carry on.


Feeling pain, burning, itching, or suffering from bleeding, are red flags to consult with a medical professional. If you are experiencing any of these, check with your doctor to make sure everything is ok and avoid anal until those symptoms are gone.


If there is a history of surgeries at the level of the anus, whether for hemorrhoids, fissures, plicomas (excess skin on the anus), fistulas, etc., this does not mean you won’t be able to enjoy anal again. It is your health professional’s duty to advise when one can return to have relations taking into account the necessary recovery time of each intervention.


Now grab those condoms, lube, and go get the mood on ;)



Dr Merkel